“I” statements

When you are having a disagreement with someone using an I statement is helpful to help you to communicate more effectively. You don’t have to include all 4 steps but it is more helpful to include them all.

Begin by saying how you are feeling (happy, sad, angry, fear, etc)

What is the other person doing to make you feel this way. Just describe the situation as if it was being recorded by video, no blaming or accusations.

Why this is making you feel the way you do.

Lastly making a request, Please do this…

For example “I feel angry when you leave your clothes on the floor rather than picking them up because it seems like I am the only one doing the cleaning. Please put your clothes in the hamper instead of the floor.

These don’t have to be negative “I feel happy when you bring me flowers, it makes me feel appreciated.” This only includes 3 of the steps but still communicates clearly.